Heard of ‘the only gay in the village’? Well, it seems Nicky thinks he is the only intersex-born person in his college. Nicky, hypogonadal, assigned male insists Kallman’s is intersex even though nobody else in the world agrees with him. He hates transsexuals, and particularly hates intersex people who reject their sex assignment, because he thinks they make people like him look like freaks. Whereas, despite this, Nicky is seen as a freak because he bullies people, and threatens people who don’t go along with him.
The bizarre thing is, he probably could claim to be intersex if he really is an underdeveloped male, but it is not on the basis of anything connected with the symptoms of hypogonadism that lead him to claim to be intersex, but because he has been diagnosed with Turner’s Syndrome. He is so convinced that this diagnosis makes him intersex that he tries to bully the folks at Wikipedia to include it as an intersex condition – even though nobody can find any source that backs him up in this.
The main thrust of his grievance about intersex people who reject their original assignment is that they are not really intersex, they are transsexuals who appropriate intersex. However, when he was involved with intersex groups, he never used to say this, he was simply a guy who hated transsexuals. But intersex groups do not tend to support people who promote hatred of any marginalised group, and requested he stop or leave. That was the point at which he started his campaign against gender variant intersex people.
What is also quite odd is that he seems quite welcome on a couple of radical feminist blog sites in promoting his particular brand of hate-speak. I guess having been ejected from almost several intersex groups (as well as a few transsexual ones, I believe) because of his hate-speak, there’s few places left that will let him post. I am at a loss to understand why any feminist group would want to be associated with a man who engages in promoting hatred, and who threatens people in the way he has; it seems to run contrary to so much of their ethos. Intersex groups do not tend to support those who promote hatred or target marginalised people and minorities, because they have more important things to do; I am the sort of person who usually calls people out people on this.
I have tried to communicate with Nicky on a number of occasions, as I feel he is probably a guy dealing with some difficult issues. Sometimes he is OK, other times he is not. If he is trying to deal with issues connected with intersex, I’d love him to find help in dealing with that so he can move on from his hostility. I do not think these women engaging with him in a way that simply feeds his hostility will help him at all – and I think it is very irresponsible of them.
Nicky, if you are reading this, I too was full of anger and hostility because of some of the things that happened to me in my life, but I managed to let go of a lot of that stuff. It still resurfaces now and then, but honestly, it is much easier living your life if you can move on from that stuff. I expect that you are basically a decent sensitive guy who has some difficult stuff to deal with, but having never met you in person, I’m not in a position to say. Please deal with your own issues, move on, and leave other people alone.
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